Couple’s Counseling

Do you sometimes feel you aren’t in love with your partner anymore?

Does your relationship help you thrive or do you feel stuck and alone?

Can you communicate in ways that make you feel heard or does a minor conflict turn into a fight?

Are your fights often the same?

Are you tired of feeling misunderstood and isolated in your relationship? 

Do you sacrifice your needs for your partner’s?

Do you wish you felt more valued by your partner?

Do you want to reconnect with your partner, but don’t know how?

Is sexual intimacy difficult?

Do you feel like roommates?

Being in a long-term relationship can be very difficult. Initially, being with a partner was wonderful, but as we age, we grow and change, and our relationship also needs to grow and change.   Life throws so much at us:  children, illness, job loss and changes, family conflict, stress, and financial difficulties. It can be overwhelming to manage the day-to-day busyness of life and still make time to work on growing your relationship with your partner.

Having a good marriage or relationship is hard work. But, like a flower that is never watered, it will wither and die if ignored.  It’s easy to get so busy with life that you ignore doing deliberate things to grow your relationship.

Healthy relationships allow partners to thrive and become happy and fulfilled individuals.

Couple’s counseling can help you discover ways to repair or rebuild your relationship.  Couple’s counseling can also help you figure out whether it’s time to move on or end your relationship.

You deserve to have the rich and loving relationship that you want.  You see older couples holding hands, looking so in love and you think, “I want that!  How can they still be so in love?”  Guess what?  You CAN have that.  It takes work, but you can have that with your partner.   You can read lots of self-help books, but it doesn’t usually work if you are the only one reading the books.  Marriage is a team sport, and you may need marriage counseling to help both of you to get on the same wavelength, recognize what’s working and what isn’t and create a roadmap to a more rewarding relationship.

If this sounds like you, please don’t wait.  Reach out for marriage counseling.  Bring the passion, joy, emotional and sexual connection back to your relationship. You deserve to have a marvelous relationship with your partner.  You deserve to feel important to them.  You deserve to feel cherished.  You deserve to have their eyes light up when you enter the room.  You can have this, all of this.

Couple’s counseling sessions are 50 or 90 minutes long and typically occur on a weekly basis.  My couple’s counseling approach is to create a safe, nonjudgemental, and respectful space where couple’s can talk openly and honestly identify the issues and conflict triggers in their relationship.  We start with an intake session in which you share about your relationship, what you like most and what you’d like to change.  We work jointly to establish goals for therapy that are best for you.  I admire the work of John and Julie Gottman, and use the learnings they’ve developed from robust research to guide my approach.   I currently have my Gottman Level One Certification.  The Gottmans have authored several best-selling books, including The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert.

I also work from an attachment based perspective using Emotionally Focused Therapy, which is based on the teachings of Sue Johnson.  She has authored several books such as Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.

I’d love to help you create the relationship you always dreamed of having.  If you are ready to get started, please click HERE.